Thursday, January 04, 2007

cast away II

Here are few basic understandings of mine behind big terms like Caste ,Marraige and Values(including customs ).
Caste /Values(including customs ): Designed by human beings for human beings .This means caste structure was introduced to help civilized people.Now what happened is later these group of people under same roof customized it further according to their convenience.That includes spiritual customs ,morals and desciplines etc.
Tell me when you meet individual or his family do you first go for their caste or how they are treating you . But offcourse their behaviour.
I will say born and bought up culture defines individuals attitude towards life , that too when you conceive something called truth and change your behaviour according to it then there is nothing better than this.Even people from same caste has conflicts .We are globalizing and our thoughts should do the same thing .Take best out of it.
Now question is who will decide what is best(Right) and what is not.Its you and only you .
Values like respecting parents do their degree varies according to caste .If you say diffetrent caste follows differnt customs during various auspicious events so does that reduces importance of that day .People are Following different god , goddes and guru to connect to supreme being does that changes our believes in supreme power.
Values are values , god is god only that there are different way to see , feel and follow it.At the end all meet at the same conjuction point .Respect for each people and their custom that what we required , no need of anyone to follow your stream of thought .Let them be what they are.See the basic not superfacial appearance of it.

Marraige : Marraige is between two families agreed but more than that its about connecting people in love bonding .As you mentioned at end if I get perfect match from other caste do I take a pain for him .Yes offcourse and I won't call it as pain for me that would be like standing on truth and changing wrong views of people in right direction.

Wednesday, January 03, 2007

Cast away

Marriage topic.Generally I skip this topic of discussion but that day I couldn't control and just blasted on my friends as if they did some crime.
It was normal meet with some old friends with whom I always had great time .We were initially discussing about what we want in life and sometimes how it just turns exactly opposite . And then suddenly poiter went on marriage then Cast ."Cast " Same word which haunted me during my engineering admission . But this time from mouth of my own people."Guy should be from same cast" .I was dumbstruck on my friends idea.Even during admission cast biasing was not (fair)justified and with respect to marraige I feel it holds Zero value.
Now in this modern Era where we share our everything with different different types of people and we know "Cast don't define them what define them is their acts and attitude " .We say we belong to contemporary generation and follow ethics ,culture and values in its respected boundries.We are born independent and many other things and when it comes to marraige and your life partner you go for Cast.So weird.
when I asked justification for their thoughts answer was vague .Some said There will be more clashes when cross culture comes in picture , some said probably adjustment rate is less in intra cast marriage ,Some gave more high funda like I can't change my parents and don't want to hurt them (Its not fair to change their ideaology now) , Understanding comes with same culture .Agreed ,very well , you care for your parents, respect your culture very nice but to reject someone on basis of cast how do you find it . I find it is BullShit.
Its time to break the rules to rule your own life .Let not allow other people intevene , get basis of castism clear and follow it .
Origin of cast system was for human benefits their easiness and systematic arrangement for better lifestyle . Cast was not their to humiliate one and honor one ,it was their to take care all necessaries and expects of human's life in controlled fashion.Man only created it and they are only spoiling it .
I don't know what to do for this ,I can't change them but I just have few words to say "There are far better things in life to think about think and act on it .Don't waste your brain and time on out dated Ideas of 60's.Listen all and filter out best suited for you.Just don't blindly follow something.Grow up"

X'mas eve

Heavy passenger traffic from hyderabad to Mumbai on Christmas eve delayed my trip to Mumbai .A day which gave me unbound joy and wished me real merry Christmas.
To involved my one day vaccation in good selfless act I joined few volunteers from Oracle who were planning to take children from Diya for X'mas shopping.It was Mrutunjay's Idea to let children from diya to select their own gifts.Reason was these kids always got gifts of other people’s choices ,now when Oracle charity fund has enough money to buy them Christmas gift then why not take them along and shop.
Children were excited and ready for Action.What I could say about these kids is These kids have unbearable pain within still they are well composed of appreciative patience, understanding and maturity .Shopping with them was real fun . Lots of comic actions involved.
There are many Incidences to quote children's qualities but one which really touched my heart is about imense understanding of 4 year old little gal.
One gal from orphanage picked up expensive dress during shopping which was crossing our allocated budget per kid so I suggested her [chuntly] that "skirt is little short and not so good why don't you go for long skirt that will suit you more " blah blah blah..She nodded and started going through other stuffs. But I could see from her face that her mind was trapped inside short skirt .She was shuffling other skirts but her mind was shuffled by black short one.Seeing her uneasiness , I involved myself in her shopping and showed her other varieties of skirts and talked lot about their smart look .Nothing was working ,she was smiling and putting them on her with disappointment on her face .All varieties got over ,nothing really left .Its not that Other stuffs were bad they were equally good and looking nice on her but little kid mind you see, she just couldn't take her mind out of it.Even I was sad and helpless.She didn't say anything but at the same time I could see her enthu was gone and just for sake of taking dress she was struggling.Damn it she is so small ,she didn't even cry neither force us to purchase same one, she didn't make scene in shop (Like other spoiled kids) , all that she did was sad face. she had some hitch in her mind to speak to us (May be lack of confidence we could build in her about liberty of shopping from our side) and it was up to us to put smile back on her face. I guess we did pretty well job and made her happy .That was something I could say WORTH shopping I have ever done.Shopping for her big big smile in exchange of short skirt .:))))))))